A letter to my 3 year old

I know you have it pretty tough, not only are you in one of many rebellious phases in your life, but you have also recently become a big brother -so I get it, there have been a lot of changes in your life in a short space of time... but my friend there are still limits.
Here are a few things I would like you to take note of:

  • don't get grumpy at me when I ask if you need to use the bathroom every couple of hours. It's not that I have forgotten that I have already asked you, it's because you sometimes get so engrossed in what you are doing that you forget to listen to what your body is telling you. 
  • don't have a melt down when it comes to bed time - most nights we let you stay up a bit past your bed time anyway. But you need your sleep so that you can grow and learn new things (and give us a little break).
  • stop jumping on the bed, couch, and everything else we tell you not to. I know its fun to jump, but that is what we bought you a trampoline for - not to mention its really dangerous jumping on and off the couch, bed, coffee table etc.
  • don't get upset when I limit your TV watching, I get it, you love Paw Patrol, Blaze and the Monster Machines, Fireman Sam, Ben and Holly's Little Kingdom, Thomas the Tank Engine and Bob the Builder, but you can't watch all of them (in that order) every night before bed. It's not because I don't love you, it's be cause I do love you that I would rather have you play with your toys or read a book than watching programmes you have seen multiple times already.
  • note that I have to call rice "risotto" in order for you to eat it, I don't like lying to you, but it's the only way to get you to eat it.
  • learn to clean up your toys when you are done with them. Tidy up time does not mean - lets watch dad tidy up all of my toys while you stand there pretending to be taking part.
  • continue sleeping so well at night, I love that you go to sleep, and we don't have to worry about you waking up for every little noise. It would be even better if you could wake up a little later than 6am though, even half an hour would be great.
  • use your ears, they really are not for decoration, and once mastered, you will find them really great and useful.
Please also know that:
  • I hate having to constantly shout at you.
  • I know you are just learning, but it makes me sad to see you frustrated and upset when you are trying to do something that you are not quite ready to do. I know it makes you cross when I try to help you with it, or when I tell you that you are still to little.
  • I don't mean to shout and tell you off for things on a daily basis, but you test patience and I can't help it.
  • you won't really turn into a giant booger if you continue eating them(well maybe you will), I only say that because its totally gross and embarrassing to see you sticking your finger up your nose and eating what ever "treasure" comes out with it.
  • I know I threaten you with the "time out" chair, or soap in your mouth, and while that may seem mean, it's the only thing that gets you to listen to me... sometimes. (believe me, I have tried numerous other methods of reasoning and discipline.
Despite everything above, please continue to use that amazing imagination of yours. You are a wonderful little person, and I am so glad to call you my son. For such a little person, you are so independent, I love watching you doing the things you should be doing, like dressing yourself, brushing your teeth, and using your knife and fork (well sometimes).

P.S - I love you just the way you are.



  1. What a beautiful letter to write to your daughter. All these things because we care and love them so much. I truly hope they believe me when I say all the time I only say or do it because I love you! :)

  2. This is very heartfelt :) Will be a cool thing to look back on in years to come too! Why do they always test our patience!

  3. What a great idea for a blog post and so much more positive than having to say " please don't jump off the back of the couch" for the thirteenth time today haha. And yup, right there with you with battling the nose picking- my two year old thinks it's hilarious when I tell her it's yucky and ask her to stop- ewwwwww

  4. I am bookmarking this for future reference. Something I get to look forward to next year! Thanks for the heads up Claire & thanks for linking up with us at Friday Favourites.

  5. I love this so much - exactly how I feel and what I'd write to my kids <3

  6. We are also with a strong 3yo in our family right now and boy does he test my patience. His energy just grates on me some days. The constant jumping and bouncing and talking and challenging. But boy don't we love them all that much more? I really enjoy watching him play, the stories and games he comes up with. :)

  7. Your three year old sounds a LOT like my three year old! Haha. But at least you get a variety of TV shows to choose from - my kid is OBSESSED with Thomas, and doesn't want to play with or watch anything else. Sigh.
    Parenting is hard. Sounds like you're doing great!