Best Friends for never

So you think when someone you consider your best friend says when they get married one day, you will be a bridesmaid - you take it seriously right? Wrong - well in my case it is, here's the story....

My husband and I had been dating for a few years and his best friend got a new girl friend. Naturally we hung out together and over time we became best friends as well. I mean we were tight, we told each other everything, relied on each other, and were mean shopping partners. Her relationship went through its ups and downs, and naturally I was there for her giving her advice etc.

My husband and I got engaged and naturally she was one of my bridesmaids - and she keeps saying when she got married I would be her bridesmaid (I did not think anything at the time - but looking back perhaps I took it more seriously than I thought). Anyway we got married and are living our happily ever after.
One and a half years into our marriage and about 6 years? Into our friendship - we decided to move to New Zealand. We promised to keep in contact and she said "you better come back for my wedding" to which I said " naturally".

Fast forward a few years ( we coming up on 4 years in NZ). She has broken up with the boyfriend she had, and is due to get married next year to her new 'prince charming'. I sort of got over making a effort all the time to try and keep on touch and message her. I never got the call or text to say -'will you be my bridesmaid'. I emailed her and asked her if it was even worth is being friends because I never hear from her, never hear about her wonderful new relationship etc. I poured my heart out into an email...

The reply "I need time to think"... Firstly WTF and secondly she had obviously shown someone my email and they had drafter a response for her - because she used words I know she does not know. Anyway a week or so later I got a reply from her, basically telling me that when she talks to me she feels depressed afterwards, because I remind her of a part of her life she wishes did not exist.
How can someone say that? Someone who is supposed to be your best friend? I know her and her ex had a rough break up but really? Is she even over him to be able to say something so mean? I was and am still "gobsmacked". I feel so betrayed as a friend - she says maybe in time things will get easier.... Well good luck to her - I want nothing to do with her A - someone who can say something so mean to a 'best friend' is not worthy time that's for sure.

Urban dictionary defines a best friend as:"Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt".

...Clearly she would never take a bullet for me


#Bestfriends, #backstabbing, #friendship

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